have gender wars distorted my view of love?

In this episode, we're diving into the impact of gender war discourse on your view of love. Whether it's influencer content, online debates, or the algorithm, it all boils down to negativity and division

Highlights:

• How online debates create a false narrative about love and relationships.
• The danger of being trapped in echo chambers that feed negativity.
• Why stepping away from divisive conversations can open you up to real, authentic connections.

Music Credit:

🎼 Vjazz_Relaxing and BFCMUSIC

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Transcript

This episode is about something I keep seeing over and over in different ways: Is this gender war stuff messing with my view on love?

As a love attraction coach, a lot of this gender war discourse gets under my skin, and I have a couple of hot takes on it.

People constantly engaging in gender war debates tend to be chronically online. They're trapped in an echo chamber of negative, divisive narratives about men and women. But once you log off, these issues aren't as prevalent as they seem.

A lot of this content is just that, content. It's produced by influencers, podcasters, and media figures whose goal is to keep you engaged. The algorithm feeds it to you, making it seem bigger than it is. In reality, this content is designed to create negativity.

Let's be real, fear is a powerful marketing tool. Just like the news hooks you in with sensational headlines (Man shot three feet away from you, news at ten!), the gender wars stoke fear and division. They rely on extreme stereotypes and demeaning buzzwords like Giga Stacy, Simp, or Chad, reducing entire genders to a few derogatory terms.

Of course, I understand that some movements are pushed by people with more nefarious intentions. But what this actually does is break down relationships, not just romantic ones, but basic human connection. It creates a scarcity mindset: Love is hard to find. Men are trash. Women are evil. No one can be trusted.

And the worst part? It convinces you that the opposite gender (or even same-gender partners) are out to get you.

Even in queer relationships, people can internalize these messages. If you're a woman dating women, you may still be consuming misogynistic content without realizing it, and it's affecting your dating life.

This content is designed to make you feel disconnected and alone. But it's a trap. When you pay attention to people who don't engage in gender war content, you'll notice something: they seek out real, meaningful, beautiful connections.

Even celebrities constantly under scrutiny aren't caught up in this nonsense. Zendaya and Tom Holland got engaged despite the online chatter about their differences. Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco? Same story. And Jeff Bezos, sometimes the richest man in the world, is getting married. He's not paying attention to incels debating whether marriage is a trap.

Why? Because they're living their lives. They're moving forward, trusting in love, and opening their hearts. They're not letting internet debates shape their relationships.

So instead of buying into division, focus on what you want from a relationship.

Here's how you can shift your mindset:

Get clear on what you truly desire. What does love look like for you? What do you believe is possible? Stop basing your expectations on what you see online.

I hear from women all the time: I don't know anyone in a relationship like the one I want, so I don't think it exists. But that's not how it works. If you're out there and amazing, trust that someone is looking for you too.

Cut the negativity off. Unsubscribe from channels and conversations that feed it. Your algorithm gives you what you interact with, so start engaging with empowering content.

Recognize rage bait for what it is.

Rage bait is designed to make you angry so you'll engage. Whether or not the creator actually believes what they're saying doesn't even matter. They just want interaction, because engagement equals money.

Their narratives don't have to define your experience of love.

As loud as these conversations are, you don't have to listen.

So let's reframe this with an afformation: How am I tuning out the noise to let love in?

Maybe the answer for you is resetting your algorithm. Maybe it's unsubscribing from toxic content. Maybe it's surrounding yourself with healthier, more uplifting examples of love. You get to choose the love story you create.

Instead of seeing the opposite gender as an enemy, start seeing them as potential partners who complement each other. And maybe... just maybe... it's time to get offline for a little bit. Because it's hard to meet your soulmate when you're buried in your phone.